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A guy divorced a girl because she asked him to dry the clothes and cut the vegetables.Can you believe this? This is what I read in a regional magazine. Their's was a love marriage and this guy got irritated when his wife gave him loads of work (?). Even her in-laws abused for asking her husband to do works. This guy kept his mouth shut and nodded for all accusations. Eventually, they applied for Divorce with mutual consent. These day's the number of divorce cases increased to such an extent that our country resemble western countries.
In accordance with worldwide divorce, Indian divorce rate is also increasing manifold, as studied by some social groups it is because of incompatibility arising from intolerance, impatience, greed, lust and desire to dominate. Building a relationship needs utmost effort, but breaking needs a petty reason. Divorce seems to be an appealing way out from incompatible and unhappy marriage. The modern day divorce became fashion due to available alternate choices. But divorce is nothing but a negative change in life as stated by much analysis, where divorced people have shattered family system, low life expectancy, low standards of living, social isolation and the most important is “emotional distress”. Considering these reasons, divorce is painful, and post-divorce life is challenging. Probably many would think that if the first marriage fails, one can always go for another marriage, unfortunately, divorce rate from the second marriages is 1.5 fold higher than the first one. In addition to this, separated or divorced couples are hardly believed for their honesty and sincerity. Whether it is man or a woman, second marriages in India are not so respected, and demands fortune.
Having said that the divorce in India is not a gregarious act, what prompts people for divorce is intriguing. Sociologists may say it is hyper-urban style and modernization that is instigating couples for divorce. The truth behind this is mainly anticipated independence- as individuals are seeking for individuality. In majority of the cases the new-independence is due to lack of adjustment in the core-family system
"That women are receiving higher education and are working is a great step forward", proclaim the reformists.
A girl was brought up the same manner as a boy. She is well educated as him. They never entered the kitchen and ask mom for even a glass of water. They too have dreams regarding their career. She was brought up with loads of affection and care by their parents. One day she is getting married and her life turn's upside down. She leaves her entire family and enters a new world expecting tantrums. She leaves all other relationships only for a single person - Her Husband. He should support her and relieve her from all the accusations made by his family members about her. But it happens the opposite way. The same girl who have never visited a kitchen till the day before is expected to cook like an expert cook the very first day. She is same as the guy. All these years she too have studied and also works in a company for a fat salary.
All guy's need a well-educated working women. The husband and wife are called better-half's, which means sharing of joy's and sorrow's in early days and its sharing of works also in these modern days. She is not asking you to cook or do all house-hold works. What's wrong in helping your wife who earns for your family? Is the girl is destined for doing everything after marriage? I am not saying this society is male dominated. But certain narrow minded people still remain in this country. Why don't they understand we too have a heart and feelings. If we don't work, we won't be having financial independence. Expecting money from husband for every petty things is something hard to digest.
I am not that kind of person who argue that a girl can live without a male support. Practically it is impossible. Though we tell that 'Women of this age are, well educated, working, courageous, brave', how many of them are ready to raise their voice against the social evil's caused to them? Only a few brave hearted souls do that. Even if some start a fight, the society (Which was keeping its mouth tightly shut till this moment), will blame, "Is this how a girl should behave?". Why can't they understand girls and guys are same and we too have the same feelings as them. Being independent in thoughts and raising voice against the troubles caused to us is wrong in the eyes of many. But who comes for our protection?
Understanding each other and helping is the key to success in marriages.
What you felt after reading this?
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