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Monday, November 2, 2009


"Attitude is the way you mentally look at the world around you.
It is how you view your environment and your future.
It is the focus you develop toward life itself."

One day all the employees of a very unusual company reached their office and all saw a big sign on the main door which said this . . .

'Yesterday, the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym.'
In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that person who hindered the growth of their colleagues and the company itself?
The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were ordered to control the crowd within the room. The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up. Everyone thought - 'Who is this person who was hindering my progress?'

One by one the intrigued employees got closer to the coffin. When they looked inside it, they suddenly became speechless. They all got to stand near the coffin, and all ended up shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul. There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see themselves! There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: 'There is only one person who is capable of setting limits to your growth and IT IS YOU!'

This is just a story, but it really does convey lot of meaning. Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your husband or wife changes, when your company changes, when your church changes, when your location changes, when your money changes, when your status changes.. No, your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs.

Be proud of whatever you are!
Be proud of your strengths!
Be proud of your weaknesses as well!

Because there is no positive without a negative. Nature loves symmetry. Did scientists ignore electrons because they had a negative charge, and look at only the positive protons? Nope. And now, because they did not ignore electrons, we have an array theories and applications, which makes life a lot more interesting, simpler, and understandable.

Philosophers may say, "Look at the positive side". I don't. When approached by an adverse situation, I think, "How can I approach this and conquer this? Through its positive effect or negative effect?". In certain cases, your weaknesses turn into strengths. In certain cases, come to think about it, your negatives turn positives. And like Stephen Hawkings, you might discover that the negatives are absorbed by the good ol' black hole, leaving only positives (Theory of entropy of Black Holes - explosion of Black Holes) Attitude is everything. Even the worst situation can be handled with ease, if our attitude is right! No matter where you are in the world, if you decided something to do deep from your heart.. It is the thought that matters, not where you are! Attitude is everything!

I recently saw an poster mentioning about attitude. The poster had the following words on them, 'Bad attitude? Flush it and move on!'. Though it may sound absurd on the first take, it does convey lot of significance. Examine yourself, watch yourself. Don't be afraid of difficulties, impossibilities and losses. Be a winner, build yourself and your reality. It's the way you face life itself that makes the difference.

P.S : This post is truly my own perspective of approaching and defining Attitude. What's your take on this?!

With Love,


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Neha said...

nice post shruthi...made me think about life all over again...attitude is everything according to me...but the problem is, very few know the difference between what is good for them and what is not...they all go by general perception most of the time...
so in short, it's all upto u how to take it...

Mahesh Kalaal said...

Hi Shruthi,,,

A comprehensive and interesting one than your previous post..... It is not easy handling such invariable 'words'.
You did manage well to balance the equilibrium. Seems bit prescriptive than descriptive.

Is Attitude relative or absolute?
Is it just a mere perception and interpretation ?


Your life does not change when your boss changes, ......... when your money changes, when your status changes.. No, your life changes when YOU change,.........

I do not agree with this. My life did change when many of the said parameters changed.


Kaka said...

true!!!!....but it is not easy....though life and time teach us lessons making us either tougher or weaker in the process....the attitude changes all the way long depending upon how we are....nice write...:)

Arnav said...

Amazing post ,
its so true ... If only we realize our potential , we could achieve so much more..
Very few of us love our own left , its so weird I f we cant love ourself how can we accept others to love us ?

Keep Writing and Smiling :)

Rohini Prasanth said...

Inspiring article dear. Good read. I feel energetic after reading your words. Thanks!

Anonymous said...

Agree girl..attitude is something that makes people lose friends, family. Bad attitude is something that I just cannot tolerate :) liked the story too!

vEnKy said...

You said that weakness turn into Strength but your strength can also turn into weakness. This is what negative attitude can do i think you understand where i am coming from. You said that things change only when you change. But for you to change lots things have to change it is a domino effects thats is a chain of actions to change. So there are other elements which can change us. I dont buy into this theory of yours.

"Bad Attitude flush it out" What to do mean by bad attitude here. If you mean negative thoughts then your contradicting your above thoughts.

And Why do u have P.S what's your take on this below every post. It is becoming like a your signature at the bottom.

Being Pramoda... said...

hi shruti,

lovelyy story...frm whr do u get these cute stories.. and i love the way u analyze them and u put in ur words..

Attitude is something that only we can change abt ourselves.. it has to be hidden within, it has to be accepted and it has to be valued..whatver we are ,..

Yes, we should feel proud of the weeknesss at times...:)

Thanks fr this..

Yellow Tulip said...

FB says i have calm and quite attitude!!...he he:)...but ur post is a delight to read..:)'s morning coffee!!:)..nice one dear

Shruti said...

Wow know what girl! You understood my point very clearly! Kudos to you! Thanks!

Shruti said...

Ahhh!! The anthropologist told, i balanced the equillibrium in this post! Wow :)

>>Relative or absolute? Good questions again!
Its purely relative. The reason is, the view point or the way you approach a problem differs from mine. We are not bound by any laws! So all these thoughts, if it has to be absolute, make us think alike. But do we all think alike? Hope you got my point!

>>Perception or interpretation
See, whatever i have jotted down here is my own perception. But you can interpret them and arrive at a conclusion which can become your perception!

Yes your life changes when these parameters change. But the interpreted perspectives prevent you from changing. I mean if your attitude is right, you can go on with life easily! :)

Shruti said...

True, attitude determines whom we are!
Thanks da :)

Shruti said...

Correct! That's the mistake we do! We are good at blaming others than understanding whom we are and what is our capability!

Shruti said...

Hey girlie, welcome back after a long time :)
Thank you so much!

P.S: Enjoyed this diwali?!

Shruti said...

Hey, know what? When we feel dejected, even our positive attitude gets converted because of the negative vibrations. So, the positives and negatives gets balanced sometime! But in some cases, out of greed and vengeance peoples attitude is affected and hence they portray bad or even worst attitude.

Thanks :)

Shruti said...

We are matured enough right? How are you arguing like this? How you started analyzing things? What made you feel the differences in my post? Everything is perception. We see lots of people, hear and read lots of things. So we analyze, think and interpret things and arrive at our own perspectives. I think you can understand my point here. That perception makes you understand the difference between good and bad. when you know good and bad, you can understand the difference in them, i.e., what is good for them and what is not.
so in short, it's all upto u how to take it!

For the other disagreement, (its when you change), my reply is same. Yes your life changes when these parameters change. But the interpreted perspectives prevent you from changing. I mean if your attitude is right, you can go on with life easily! :)

Bad attitude-flush it!I told you before. Nature gives and loves symmetry. Nobody can be 100% good or bad. They ratio in every human being varies making them good and bad. So attitude also can be either positive or negative. But when the perceptions is right, you can flush that bad attitude and the positive nature helps in healthier thinking (When things get out of your hand, you feel dejected and thus, the mind gives ways for devils thoughts and the attitude changes. That's what i mean bad here.)

Regarding P.S, actually, i wanted to write something else. But i dozed off while writing that and wrote something else. Does that bother you?!


Bharathi said...

Profound thought. have you heard the song ole ole ole of Ricky martin? I love the line "nothing can hold you back if you really want it". Growth are downfall all within us. Good one. Keep writing like this.

Shruti said...

Thanks a ton girlie. These are the stories i read a long time back. Some stories i have heard it from my dad. So i write a story, analyze that and arrive at a conclusion which happens to be my perspective :)

Shruti said...

@Yellow tulip
Calm and quiet attitude eh!? Wow
Thanks girlie :)

vEnKy said...

See let me clear this Attitude is nothing but how we behave and perceive others and life.

"Philosophers may say, "Look at the positive side". I don't". When approached by an adverse situation, I think, "How can I approach this and conquer this? Through its positive effect or negative effect?". In certain cases, your weaknesses turn into strengths. In certain cases, come to think about it, your negatives turn positives."

This is actually a positive approach. This is what i mean by call as a bad attitude are negative thoughts. And we fulsh that out. Then how did the black hole theory come into existence. Do u get it.

What do you mean by interpreted perspectives. Because Interpretation and perception means the same.

I can sense a lot of dilemma

Hey i just said that on lighter note it was getting a bit cliched with your P.S

Anonymous said...

Very thoughtful post Shruti!!

Yes, as you say. the ATTITUDE determines your life... It's we and more our attitude decides our life...

May be the environment around us has a part to play things in our life... But atlast it's we who decide to take that effect as part of our life or not...

U tend to think differently... Winners dont do differnt thing.... they just do things differently... So you would be a winner for sure!!!

lostworld said...

Reminded me of the famous line from Shawshank Redemption - Get busy living or get busy dying !! :-)

Its all in the mind. Always.

pra said...

really nice post Shruti! I totally agree with you. we ourselves are responsible for our own lives but it is difficult to remember it sometimes and to keep up the positive attitude at that time is very hard.these kind of stories help us that time!

Singh Amit said...

Very Nice post Shruti.. :)
I do agree with your thoughts of accepting things as a whole, not in positive and negative...
And yes, attitude is the most important aspect of life...
I remember a quote saying..
" It is not your aptitude but attitude that determines your altitude.. "

Ekam said...

Awesome.. :)
Even I don't see only at the positive side. A negative side or positive side or approach doesn't sometimes matter. Its how you take that negative approach on your side.
You know what, there's a business approach called six sigma.. Now in it , it is said that you have to see a situation in a negative manner... I don't know how to say this.. ummm..
Its like .. suppose there is a company.. and a target is set for the manufacturing . Now you want to approach toward your target and complete it not that you have to do it but somewhere its in your mind that if i don't complete it .. then what ?
Now here the negative approach outgrows and works for your positive..
Its all your attitude how you take a situation :)

Abdul said...

lol shruti.. "Did scientists ignore electrons because they had a negative charge, and look at only the positive protons?" i cant stop laughing.. dunno if ur from a science background but this is such a funny comparison too make.. honestly i havent seen something as funny as this for quite a while.. got to tell my frends.. :)

Anonymous said...

exactly! :)

be proud of whatever u are!
be proud of your strengths!
be proud of your weaknesses as well!

i liked these lines a lot! :)

your words make one look back at life and wonder! rather than just sitting back and seeing a bright side, one should indeed look for making dark side bright! :)

good words!

Anonymous said...

I had read this story some time back ... one thing I have seen is that those who are Successful actually have a very positive attitude.... and its opposite for others ...and I am talking of 'real' people so its certainly the attitude make or break things in life ... but its sometimes difficult to see the positives in a negative circumstances ...

pRiYaN...! said...

there can be 'n' numbers of ways to improve your attitude...but 'Believing in yourself' is the best step you can take forward to improve your attitude.

the real change has to come from your depth of your heart....desire to change provides you opportunity to change your attitude....

BK Chowla said...

What you are saying is absolutely right.A very positive post from which one can learn a lot.

Rachana Shakyawar said...

@ Shruti
This is a very practically inspiring post.

Especially the last para is written in precise words with so deep and enormous meaning hiding the true essence of the post. I also loved going through each example of story you have mentioned.

Beautifully clumped all together!
Keep the spark Alive

Chatterbox said...

Wonderful post Shruti.
Our attitude determines our very existence and the path we shall tread during our lives. Be it optimism or pessimism the outcome of our thoughts,words and deeds is decided by our attitude.

A thought provoking post.

Keep up the excellent work girl.


chitz said...

a nice and thoughtful one..:)


A good topic for a post. If people had a different attitude to what they have at present perhaps the world could be a better place.
An excellent write.


Aditya said...

Good post :). in case of writing , Attitude is not about writing the best article for the world. Attitude is when you don't care what the world thinks about your writing and write the best according to you!

Srivatsan said...

really superb!
it is we who change,not the others!
I was pessimist all my college days,but now I'm straining a lot to change myself to have cool attitude and to take positive steps. :)

Anonymous said...

truly awesome..............

I agree with you, change your attitude towards things, things starts changing accordingly you.

nice post..

Check mine @

Shruti said...

Yes!I understood.
Interpretation means, A mental representation of the meaning or significance of something

Perspectives means, A way of regarding situations or topics
They both aren't same :)

Shruti said...

Thanks pal!
Yes i have heard that ole ole ole of Ricky martin..The cup of life, official world cup song. I forgot the year.. may be 98 or 99!
I remember the verses of the line you told here..
And when you feel the heat The world is at your feet, No one can hold you down If you really want it, Just steal your destiny Right from the hands of fate, Reach for the cup of life 'Cause your name is on it

Shruti said...

Thanks a ton bala :)
When the attitude becomes perfect i.e., correct the changes in environment, even the changes can be set right by the right attitude :)

Shruti said...

@Lost world
Hey even i love that quote from Shawshank Redemption!

Shruti said...

Arey yaar! Welcome back after a longgg longgggg time :)
You are correct with the point you said!
Thanks :)

Shruti said...

Hey thanks for accepting :)
I loved the quote you jotted down here!

Shruti said...

True with what you said, that what i call as, making something out of nothing..that's what you mentioned about taking negatives in right sense.
Yes even i know about six sigma, I have studies that in TOTAL QUALITY MANAGEMENT in my 7th semester :)

Thanks girlie :)

Shruti said...

Arey yaar what you asked? Am i from a science background?
Yes, am an engineer that too an electronics engineer..So close associations with electrons and protons :)
Glad that you noticed that :P
Nobody noticed that funnier part..
Tell me what your friends reacted :P

Shruti said...

Welcome to my blog :)
Thank you so much.. You said, "one should indeed look for making dark side bright!".. This is what i term as ATTITUE :)

Shruti said...

You are correct..Attitude determines a person..
Thanks for dropping by!

Shruti said...

Very true yaar :)
You got the exact point!
Thanks :)

Shruti said...

@Chowla Ji
Really happy to receive such a comment from you! Thanks for this appreciation!

Shruti said...

Thank you so much sweety!
Glad, really glad that you liked the examples cited here :)

Shruti said...

Girl I have a doubt!
Attitude decides whether we are pessimist or optimist! Right? If am right, then your explanation contradicts here. If am wrong, explain me :)

Shruti said...

Welcome to Hits and Misses!
Thank you for sparing your time and commenting! :)

Shruti said...

You always lift up my morals by encouraging me :)
Thanks lady!
You are true, everyone with right attitude makes this world a better place to live :)

Shruti said...

Hey hi adi, how have you been? Blog-o-sphere is missing you! Do come back soon! :)
Your attitude about writing is so true! :)

Shruti said...

Hi :)
Couldn't find any updates from you!?
Thank you!
In college days, the first two years i was also a pessimist like you, the third year changed my life completely, like a life after tsunami.. So i understood the biggest lesson of my life.. That changed my attitude and here am writing a post on that! How funny!

Surely right attitude will help you in making the right and wise decisions! :)

Shruti said...

Thanks a lot re!!
Will check yours! :)

Sid 'Ravan' Kabe said...

I like ur attitude babes... yes... its the attitude that matters the most...

btw... i have forwarded this post to my HR... i hope he keeps coffin in our gym...:D

Shruti said...

Thanks and have u really forwarded??! :O :O

Anonymous said...

i don't whether I should mention here. But I went through a bad time when I used to think what was so wrong with the world around.
But then i changed my attitude I understood where I was wrong..
enlightening post shruti..

PS: I will surely read other posts of yours in due time..

Shruti said...

The positive attitude in you helped you in overcoming the situation na?!
Thanks re :)
No probs, take your time, read them and tell me what you felt!

Shashank Shekhar said...

nice one Shruti :)

Shruti said...

Hi :)
welcome back after a long time!
Thank u!

Shankar said...

hey..a nice post....
but i am not clear.... you started with attitude.. then you jumped to the mirror thing which says about growth and limits.. then u deal with strengths and weaknesses...what this attitude has to do with strengths and weaknesses..

I feel both are different...sry..because i got confuse half way...

Shruti said...

Thanks! But i didn't hop to strengths and weaknesses!
I mentioned about attitude here. That's all.. My point is accept everything as a whole!
Strengths and weakness.. they both are opposite.. Because there is no positive without a negative. Nature loves symmetry!
I don't wanna confuse you further :)

kanagu said...

A preachy post :) and that story is nice :) i liked it...
To me attitude is being oneself... But i couldn't agree with your point on change on ourselves is within us because we are a product of our environment... Aren't we?

Shruti said...

Hey though we are a product of environment, we do think, analyse and interpret things na? When we are doing so, knowingly or unknowingly we frame our mind to something.. That is attitude..the way you approach problems!
Got it?

Vishnu said...

nice.. all has been said and done.. jus a personal opinion.. i think i like posts like these.. so keep em cummin.. kalakunga..

vEnKy said...

@ Shruthi

ok what is interpreted perception then :). There is much of difference between the two to call them different

Abdul said...

dumbos they didnt get the point.. however it was my mistake too as i was explaining it in the middle of the class while the other fellow was dreamin abt *&%&*%$.

Roshmi Sinha said...

Very nice post and very apt too! Keep them coming :)

Shruti said...

Hey thanks..Indha madhri lam pidikkumo! Paravala... Naanum ipdilam yezhudha aarambichurkken

Shruti said...

sebba! Kanna kattudhey!
Interpretation is see if something is happening,you start analysing them. appo 'idhu ipdi irukalamo, adhu apdi irukalama' apdinnu think panrathu interpretation!
Adhuve, unnoda views is perception..

Interpreted perception is analysing those incidents with your view point!
Hope i made myself clear!

Shruti said...

:( :(
Nobody understood it eh?!
Leave it! some people don't understand the real brilliance :P :P(Jus kidding!)

Shruti said...

Thanks a lot sweety!

Chetan said...

hey shruti
nice post and a good story
i could see you have swithced from romantic stories to philosophical ones

Shruti said...

Thanks budddy! Variety is the spice of life na?!

The Aspirant said...

another great one.......
attitude is evrything......losses or defeats dust matter , wad maters is dat hv u put ur 100% effort in dat wrk or nt.......

Shruti said...

Very true :-)
Glad you accepted this!

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